When you move in with your partner before you’re really ready to take such a serious leap, the feeling of regret will hit you like a ton of bricks.

It’s tough to deal with the bitter sadness (and even suppressed rage) you feel with yourself when you realize you’ve made a mistake.

Yes, coping with regret can be a difficult task you must conquer quickly in order to regain emotional equilibrium. But what should you do if you’re currently in the predicament of regret about moving in with your partner?

Common reasons to regret moving in with your partner

The first thing you should do is try to figure out why you regret your decision to move in together.

A common reason for regret is that you had to leave your excellent friends behind and now feel like a stranger in a foreign town surrounded by strangers. Is that the source of your resentment?

Relocating to a small town, especially if you are coming from a major metropolis can be challenging. Relocating to a bustling city when you prefer living in a small town can be just as jarring. Is this the source of your issue?

Did moving in with your partner mean you had to abandon your old job? It’s possible the new job you’ve been hired at just isn’t what you want for yourself. It’s also possible you’ve been unable to land a new job in your new area at all. Could this be why you’re regretting your choice?

Weather is another significant factor. Just enduring one severe winter is enough to make you regret leaving a pleasant and sunny area, even if you did make the move for love. Maybe you prefer snowy winters, but you’re feeling trapped in a place that doesn’t get to experience all four seasons.

Maybe your partner has stopped putting in any effort to be a great lover to you since the moment you moved in. They’re leaving you to do all the chores, asking you to split bills in a way that makes you uncomfortable, or they always seem to be invading your space.

No longer having privacy to use the bathroom, having to patiently take turns using the shower, and suddenly noticing all the annoying or gross things your partner does (firsthand) could be turning you all the way off.

Is your partner snoring through the night and hogging the TV to watch sports throughout the day?

Has your sex life started to deteriorate since there isn’t any excitement about coming together anymore?

Are you starting to miss the feeling of actually missing your partner instead of always automatically being in their presence?

Do you feel like your choice to move in has lowered the chances of your partner proposing to you since they’re getting marriage treatment from you without having the actually commit with a ring?

All of these feelings are valid, and if you’re feeling regretful about moving in for any of these reasons, it’s time to reevaluate.

Moving out doesn’t mean you’re breaking up

If you choose to continue living with your partner, but you’re still missing your friends or hating your new job, there are ways to solve those problems.

Maintain contact with your close buddies and start putting yourself out there to meet new friends. Continue job searching until you find something that actually satisfies you.

If the weather conditions are your issue, do your best to see the positives about wherever you’re currently located.

Although snow in Colorda can be freezing cold, it still sparkles and creates a magical ambiance each winter. Although the sun in Nevada can be scalding hot, it still feels great to experience natural sunshine each summer.

If the issues are much more serious such as your partner’s new lack of effort, a deteriorating sex life, or that your partner no longer cares to take the next step of marriage with you, it’s time for you to figure out some moving out plans.

Keep in mind that moving out doesn’t instantly equal breaking up. Moving out might just be the better and smarter option for you if you really want to save your relationship.