Having cold feet on your wedding day is completely normal. Those brief moments of doubt and fear crossing over your brain? Extremely common.

Recognize that you’re under a lot of pressure! You might be relocating to a new home or city. Conversations about starting a family and childbearing timelines might be circulating. Plus, you’re about to be LEGALLY tied to another human being.

All of these things induce tension, even if they are for the better. So, keep in mind that it might just be the pressure of it all caving in on you. Here’s what you should do.

How to handle wedding day cold feet

If you have cold feet before your wedding, remember all the beautiful experiences you’ve shared with your lover. Think back on all of the fantastic times you had as a couple. Start silently listing them off in your mind or grab a sheet of paper to start jotting them down.

Going over the blissful memories might very well help you relax and get rid of your cold feet. Most of the time, cold feet are simply a result of nervousness. Reflecting on all of the valuable memories you have with your partner will help you slowly start regaining confidence in your decision.

If you’ve never had any doubts about your future together, you shouldn’t give your uneasy sentiments any weight or attention.

Talking to a trustworthy friend or family member will be beneficial as well. Talk with someone who cares about both of you.

You don’t want to speak with someone who’s never liked your partner since they won’t give you honest and impartial advice. However, with the proper individual, an unbiased conversation will be exactly what you need to get rid of your cold feet.

Meditative practices such as breathing exercises, EFT tapping, reciting positive affirmations, or doing simple yoga poses can all be helpful to you, too.

Making yourself relax and calm down will not cure all cases of cold feet, but it might provide you with a more hopeful viewpoint.

You shouldn’t always ignore your cold feet

Sometimes, your cold feet are actually a result of your gut instincts trying to send you a message. Ask yourself some questions to find out.

Do you feel like you’ve been coerced into these wedding plans?

Are you having doubts about your partner’s loyalty based on past occurrences of them cheating on you or lying to you?

Are there unresolved issues looming between you and your partner that need to be worked through before you’ll be comfortable getting married?

Do you have unresolved feelings for someone else that you’re still struggling to let go of?

Are you feeling uncomfortable with the prenuptial agreements and don’t want to legally move forward until things are sorted?

Are you feeling sick to your stomach at the idea of committing yourself (for the rest of your life) to someone who doesn’t totally stack up or meet the criteria of what you’re really looking for in a partner?

Do you feel convinced that marrying this person would 100% mean you’re settling?

Are you feeling scared about being pressured into parenthood soon after tying the knot, even though you don’t know how you feel about having kids at all?

Don’t ignore your gut instincts if they’re coming onto you strongly.

Finally 

There is a potential you will need to cancel your wedding, but you should be very certain first. Most incidences of cold feet are caused by nervousness rather than serious doubts from the bride or groom.

Although getting cold feet might be frightening, it does not usually necessitate canceling the wedding. If you’re expecting to get cold feet on your wedding day, but you know your partner is a genuinely great person to marry, start preparing yourself now to fight back against those overwhelming thoughts on your big day.