Dating as a Black or Brown woman in America comes with its own set of challenges.
Statistically speaking, Black women are the least likely to make connections on dating apps. According to WBUR, OKCupid ran a 2014 study that revealed a sad reality.
Most of the men on their site rated Black women as being less attractive than women of all other ethnicities. It’s been several years since then, but how much have things really changed?
Even more alarming? Black women are the least likely to get married. According to NPR, 40% of black women have never been married compared to 21% of white women who’ve never been married.
TikToker and love expert @DatingCoachAnwar shared a video breaking calling out some of the most difficult cities for women of color to find love.
According to Anwar, there are three difficult cities for Black and Brown women to live in if they are on a mission to find their soulmate.
Los Angeles
First on Anwar’s list happens to be Los Angeles.
He explains, “Los Angeles is super difficult for Black and Brown women, though a little easier for Latinas. One of the things you really need to know is that they’re still all about that Eurocentric look.
“There’s a lot of racism, even though it’s Cali. The shade of it all is at the men of color in LA are not checking for [Black and brown women] as much as they should.”
Los Angeles is enticing for plenty of people who are attracted to the magic of city life and the allure of Hollywood.
Unfortunately, finding love there as a Black or Brown woman may not be the easiest feat to accomplish.
Houston
Anwar says, “Houston. H-town. Why am I saying this? There’s not a lot of guys who are financially dependent.
“A lot of guys from Houston are actually coming from Atlanta because they weren’t able to make it in Atlanta, so they think they’re 10 and they’re overestimating themselves.“
He goes on to explain that a lot of the men either work in the service industry, or they’re studying in school as med students and future engineers.
While there’s nothing wrong with either of those routes, service industry workers have schedules that often require them to work evenings and weekends.
Men who are bartenders, servers, club promoters, hosts, and security guards fall into that category.
Med school students in future engineers are often way too busy focusing on their studies to give you their attention.
These factors make it way more difficult to find your soulmate in Houston.
Atlanta
Anwar says, “When a woman comes to me and says, ‘Hey, I live in Atlanta,’ I know this is going to take nine to 12 months to actually help her get her guy.
“I’ll explain why… ATL has a huge gender ratio issue. When it comes to singles who are ready to be in a relationship, it’s a ratio of six to one.
“Six women of color to one man of color. This means that there’s a level of thirst and desperation happening in that market – and the men know that.
“[The men are] flakier, they’re treating the women more horribly than they should, and they have no incentive to settle down. This makes ATL super hard to date in.”
Don’t give up if you live in the cities
Just because you live in the cities, it doesn’t mean you’re completely doomed or incapable of finding your soulmate.
It might be a little harder if you’re a woman of color, but when true love is meant to find you, it will undoubtedly find you.
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