When it comes to dating men, doing less will always get you more. That’s the philosophy TikToker @dejachanel tells us all about.
She explains exactly why you shouldn’t over-exert yourself when dealing with men romantically.
“You have a tendency to think ‘Okay I like him. Let me cook him dinner. Let me see if I can pick him up from work. Let me buy his meal sometimes.’”
Here’s how doing less can actually result in receiving more
You want him to see how valuable you are. You want him to think that you’re a catch and that someone like you is hard to come by.
But this can have the opposite effect.
“Have you ever heard a man who’s been in a relationship with a woman be like ‘I liked her because she did so much for me?’ Was it a healthy relationship that looked like you’d wanna be a part of it? Did it seem like he respected her?”
Most of the time, he did not. He just used her for all that she would give to him.
They appreciate that they’re reaping the benefits of having a supportive partner without having to give any effort themselves.
“When men like you, they want to give to you.”
It doesn’t matter how wealthy or poor they are, if a man likes you, he will give to you. Whether that’s money, effort, or time, they just want to be a helping hand.
They understand dating a woman is an investment and are willing to put in the work for the woman they desire.
But he won’t desire you if you’re only making his life easier.
There’s no chase in that. You’re handing him everything he wants.
Let him be the helping hand.
“Cause it looks like you’re auditioning to be his girlfriend. And if you’re doing that, you’re never gonna make it past the tryouts. I promise.”
So save your energy.
Invest it back into yourself and watch every aspect of your life flourish, along with your dating life. Do less and get more!
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