Spiritual warfare is something many brides and grooms deal with before their wedding day.
After getting married recently, I can reveal that my husband and I were definitely dealing with spiritual warfare leading up to our wedding day.
Our pastor warned us that spiritual warfare is common among couples who are about to get married because Satan wants to prevent a holy union from coming together.
Satan will create chaos and pull out all the stops to prevent a couple from making it down the aisle.
Spiritual warfare looks like RANDOM and ridiculous obstacles rising in ways that are totally unexpected and out of your control.
Here’s what spiritual warfare looked like for me and my husband before we got married.
Spiritual warfare before marriage
Spiritual warfare can look different for every couple before their wedding day.
For me and my husband, sh** started hitting the fan when we realized we had zero chance of staying within our $25,000 budget.
We had a strict $25,000 budget for our wedding, but we ended up spending closer to $40,000.
A lot of the money had to be borrowed/gifted from my husband’s parents to make the wedding happen.
Realizing how far over budget we got was incredibly depressing and stressful for both of us. It led to a lot of difficult conversations and arguments.
Beyond that, I see an energy cleanser once a month to rid my body of any negative energy I might be harboring.
On the week of the wedding, my energy cleanser completely forgot about our session. It added a lot of stress to my plate, but fortunately, she was able to squeeze me in at the last minute.
Men’s Wearhouse came close to screwing us over big time with the groomsmen’s taxes.
I wanted to share the moment of wearing all white with my husband on our wedding day, which meant he was supposed to be the only man in an all-white tux.
He set it up so his groomsmen would wear light gray tuxes to the wedding. For some reason, Men’s Wearhouse arranged white dinner jackets for all of the groomsmen.
We didn’t realize they made such a serious error until about a week and a half before the wedding.
We had to go to Men’s Wearhouse and sit in their office for an hour waiting for them to resolve the issue.
If my husband’s cousin hadn’t pointed out the white dinner jackets issue, all of the groomsmen would’ve shown up wearing white and it would’ve been heartbreaking.
Two of my acrylic nails broke before the wedding day, which caused me a lot of stress.
I had to go to the nail salon at the last minute to get them fixed. It was minuscule, but still stressful nonetheless.
I realized that our premarital counselor was gaslighting me about a week before the wedding day, and it was really terrible for my mental health.
She was making me feel extremely sh***y about myself as a woman with a lot of ambition. I am a wife, but I’m never going to stop being ambitious – and I’m never going to stop pushing my husband to be ambitious.
She made me feel guilty about my mindset and the way that I think. I’m dedicated to living an abundant life by putting a Law of Attraction into practice.
She was making me feel bad about that. Sessions with her are not good for me or my mental health whatsoever. She was making me spiral.
More drama arose with my wedding gown. I spent $4150 on the dress from a bridal boutique.
At the last minute, they told me I needed to pay another $1400 for alterations to make sure that it fit me.
The last-minute bill was shocking and disturbing. I ended up taking my dress elsewhere for alterations.
It’s like they wanted to wait till the last minute to mention the alterations fee because they thought I’d be desperate enough to agree. It was STRESSFUL.
Next up? We had about five or six confirmed guests drop out of the wedding at the last minute. It was really disheartening.
Each invited guest costed us $175 per head, and that money was nonrefundable.
I started inviting girls from my dance class and other people who I got to know after making the original guest list to make sure the $175 per head wasn’t being wasted.
It made me sad that people who originally said they’d be there were not there.
The cherry on top of the cake? It was pouring rain on our wedding day!
The weather was perfect the day before and it was perfect the day after. But it was pouring rain on our wedding day.
We had to move our wedding inside. Fortunately for us, the venue was just as beautiful inside.
It was still just extremely disheartening that we couldn’t enjoy our wedding day outside. The only reason we chose our venue was because of the outdoor setting… So, the fact that we didn’t even get to use the outdoor setting was truly heartbreaking.
Ultimately, I feel like I was being tested with every single f***ing obstacle that came my way leading up to the wedding day.
Since our pastor warned us about spiritual warfare, my husband and I understand what was happening.
At the end of the day, I am God’s daughter, I am protected by God, and I have a relationship with God.
And it was always going to be in God’s will for me to be married to my best friend.
A lot of things went wrong, but the fact that I got to marry my best friend means that I won in my book.
Despite everything, I still feel like our wedding day was perfect because I got to marry my best friend.
And now, we have an excuse to celebrate our one-year marriage anniversary in a fantastical manner next year.
We have the excuse! It rained on our wedding day and so many other things went wrong.
So, we have the excuse to celebrate PART TWO of our wedding next year on a tropical beach somewhere. I’m looking forward to it!
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