This is a major lesson we can learn from Taylor Swift’s relationships and lyrics.

Taylor’s love life has been on full display since 2006, which means we have about two decades worth of lessons to consider.

Create good dating karma

Know that if you’ve treated your romantic partners well with love and respect, you will receive good karma for that, even if it comes in a future relationship with someone else or if it comes in some other form altogether. Taylor’s song Karma says, “Cause karma is my boyfriend, Karma is a god, Karma is the breeze in my hair on the weekend, Karma’s a relaxing thought, Aren’t you envious that for you it’s not? Sweet like honey, karma is a cat Purring in my lap ’cause it loves me, Flexing like a GD acrobat, Me and karma vibe like that.” This song is a very obvious depiction of what it feels like to create good karma for yourself. It’s crucial to create good karma in ALL areas your life, but for the sake of this video, we’re only going to talk about creating good dating karma.

So, this means you won’t be the type of person to ghost someone when you lose interest, even if you yourself have been ghosted. This means you’ll be honest with your partners about anything and everything, even if you’ve been lied to. This means you’ll never cheat on a partner you’re in a committed relationship with, even if you’ve been cheated on. You might not always see the finished result of someone who hurt you receiving their karma, but karma will always come back around full circle. And if you put good energy out into the world, you will receive it back, even if it comes in a different form, through a different person, through a different event, or some other way.

Karma might unfold in ways you may never see with your own two eyes such as a man who ghosted you after a hookup a few years ago, later getting ghosted by his dream girl a year or two later. You may never hear about what happened to him or about the emotional distress he went through because of it, but you have to trust and believe that karma handles people and situations accordingly. Another thing to keep in mind with karma is that you shouldn’t try to instigate karma or pull the trigger on it because that’s overstepping what God has planned. Allow events of the universe to unfold as they should, and remember that whatever idea you might have for seeking out revenge will never be as intense as what the universe already has in store for that person. If you try to play God and intercept things by triggering karma yourself, then there’s a chance whatever you did to hurt that person is only going to be a fraction of the pain they would have received if you simply allowed things to play out as they were supposed to in the universe.

Never get involved with someone else’s karma, and just simply focus on creating the purist and cleanest karma you possibly can for yourself. Taylor digs into that concept at another point in the song when she sings, “Cause karma is the thunder. Rattling your ground. Karma’s on your scent like a bounty hunter. Karma’s gonna track you down, step-by-step from town to town. Sweet like justice karma is a queen. Karma takes all my friends to the summit, karma is the guy on the screen, coming straight home to me.“ She’s describing the undeniable fact that karma WILL find the people who deserve it, and it will either bring good energy full circle back to you or bad energy full circle back to you, based on what you’ve put out in the world. In her song, she sings about all the good karma that she’s received from keeping her side of the street clean.

She enjoys the good karma of dating a loving boyfriend. Her karma is reminiscent of a mythical God. Her karma is the delicious feeling of a breeze through her hair on the weekend. Her karma is how it feels to have relaxing thoughts float through her mind instead of anxious ones. Her karma is the love of a cat curled up in her lap because it loves her, which is an iconic line when you think about the fact that you have to earn love and trust from cats, who are notoriously bitchy little creatures. They’re super independent and usually never even respond when you call their name. If a cat is willing to curl up in your lap, that means you’ve successfully earned their love. Taylor also describes “flexing like a GD acrobat.” We know acrobats are the most flexible human beings on this planet, and I personally live in Las Vegas where I get to see Cirque du Soleil shows. Acrobats are the most flexible talented people ever, full stop. So if you’re flexing like them, that means that you really got it like that.

Taylor ends the chorus, saying “Me and Karma vibe like that.” She is so solid and comfortable in her karma because she knows she puts good energy into the world. On the contrary, you should be scared if you are willingly and knowingly putting bad karma out into the world, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. Men who purposely lie to women to get them in bed, use them, and then ghost them can expect the worst possible karma. It’s unavoidable, and it will eventually hit them, even if it’s not overnight. Even if you never see the damage of their karma after they’ve hurt you, just rest assured they will receive their karma. And you will too. We all will.