Loving and respecting yourself means creating a solid set of boundaries that you can stand on, no matter what.
After all, if you stand for nothing, you’ll fall for anything. TikToker @HeyItsJess800 shared a video breaking down five dating boundaries she has.
No sex until it’s official
Jessica starts her video off strong by saying, “I’m not f*cking sleeping with you, unless you’re my boyfriend.”
Her first boundary is arguably the most important boundary.
Having sex with someone before they’ve made it official with you can potentially lead you right into a situationship.
Other than kissing, Jessica is not getting physical with the guys she dates – and that should be the case for all women who want to protect themselves from guys who might just want to hit it and quit it.
Skip the sleepovers
Jessica’s second boundary? No sleepovers! It doesn’t matter how tired you are or how late it’s getting. Get up and go home.
Jessica says, “[Sleepovers] create a false sense of intimacy and I just don’t want to do it.”
If you’ve been drinking, call an Uber or Lyft. Whatever you do, don’t sleep over before you’re in a relationship.
Family introductions can wait
Before the person you’re dating comes home to meet your mom and dad, take a second to think things through.
Jessica says, “I feel like meeting family is such a privilege and I value that so highly. I’m not just going to introduce a random man that is not my boyfriend to my family…”
It’s a waste of time to have your family interact with someone who may or may not even stick around for the long haul.
Minimize the texting
If you’re catching yourself constantly texting back-and-forth with the person you’re dating, that habit might need to come to a halt.
Jessica says that despite her love for texting, this is something she had to personally overcome.
“[Constant texting] really creates a false sense of intimacy, and I don’t want a f*cking pen-pal,” she explains.
She adds that giving someone your time, attention, and energy all day long when they’re not even your official partner just doesn’t make any sense.
Don’t be exclusive until you’re off the market
Until the person you’ve been dating makes it official with you, you NEED to keep dating around.
Jessica says, “I’m not being exclusive to anybody who is not my boyfriend. If you want to be exclusive… you can ask me to be your girlfriend.”
She’s absolutely right.
Don’t focus all your attention on one potential partner before they’ve even given you a reason to do that.
You’re single until a conversation takes place to thoroughly define the relationship.
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