Getting caught up in situationship is one of the most frustrating things to deal with in the modern dating realm.

It’s even worse if the thing your truly seeking is a solid and stable relationship with someone who genuinely loves you for who you are.

At the end of the day, it’s up to you to put a stop to situationships before they go on for too long.

When you waste time in situationships, you’re wasting your youth. Your youth is precious and valuable. You deserve to be with someone who honors that fact.

TikToker and dating coach Dating With Dalencia has some advice about avoiding situationships from becoming continual patterns in your life.

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Here’s how you can avoid situationships

Dalencia says there are four shifts you can make today that will make it easier for you to find a long lasting relationship with a quality partner.

1. Stop Disney dating

Dalencia explains that when your Disney dating, you’re making moves based on the butterflies you feel in your stomach and the small blips of excitement that hit you.

Instead of that, you should be value-based dating. That means you’re focusing more on the way your partner views things and the way you’re able to envision your lives in the future together.

2. Look for “all in” energy

In the dating game, it’s a lot more valuable to deal with partners who are “all in” with what they’re looking for.

Don’t waste your time dealing with people who are showing a slight interest, but don’t have any idea what their plans are for the future.

When someone is “all in,” it means they’re already thinking about long lasting relationship that will lead to marriage.

3. Remove yourself when needed

According to Dalencia, you should be removing yourself from the equation as soon as you realize the person you’re dealing with isn’t providing “all in” energy.

Don’t dance around with the possibilities and waste your precious time. Hoping for their potential to blossom might not yield any results. Cut ties ASAP and move on with your life.

4. Heal your personal insecurities

Last but not least, Dalencia says you should be working on yourself – on a deeper level. Start healing your inner fears and insecurities to become a healthy-minded person.

When you’re healthy-minded, it’s easier for you to stand up for yourself and cut people off when they aren’t serving you.