Take a moment to imagine a fictional couple named Nicole and Ben. They’ve experienced a passionate and intense romance marked by a strong, undeniable chemistry.

Nicole always enjoyed being in Ben’s company and Ben felt the same way too with memorable moments in their relationship, but there was just one problem. 

Despite the strong attraction they felt, they had broken off and reunited three times in less than a year and a half of their relationship.

Their relationship was full of fundamental communication issues that seemed to have no antidote.

We sometimes crave lustful and intense love relationships, and while those flames can be addictive, they’re also volatile in nature.

Tell your ex “we are never, ever, ever getting back together”

At some point, some form of reevaluation to ascertain the sustainability of your off-and-on relationship is needed.

These relationships are usually accompanied by uncertainties that cause emotional disturbances and even drainage.

Cutting off things with an on-and-off lover will require some strong determination and grit.

This decision will protect you from the emotional toll that comes with such a constant back-and-forth pattern in the relationship, providing adequate closure to pursue other life goals and relationships. 

There are a few reasons why you should consider cutting things off with your on-and-off lover.

Constantly breaking off and reuniting is a sign of incompatibility in a relationship, simply indicating that a relationship lacks the solidity required to stand the test of time.

It could also mean that your partner’s interests and goals do not align with yours.

An on-and-off relationship could limit an individual’s focus on personal growth and development.

The constant ups and downs in such relationships can hinder a person’s drive for growth and excellence as they can be highly consuming and distracting.

Evaluating the relationship to realize that it has no direction or solid foundation means cutting to the chase and moving on with your life.