If you’re reading this, odds are you’ve opened your Christmas gifts from your partner and you HATE them. What do you do?

Instead of secretly returning your gifts without saying a word to your partner, think about taking this approach instead.

Ask them where the gift idea came from first

Sometimes, knowing the origin story of your partner’s gift-giving plans can sway your opinions about what you’ve received.

For example, if you received a book written by an author you’ve never heard of, find out why your partner picked it out for you.

Maybe, you mentioned a topic that’s important to you in passing and your partner bought that book because they know that specific topic is covered in some of the chapters.

Knowing the motivation behind why your partner got you something could change everything.

If they admit that the gift they got you was totally random without any preemptive planning, you have a valid reason to be thoroughly annoyed.

Tell the truth

Lying to your partner by saying you love your gifts is as dumb as lying about having orgasms in the bedroom.

If your partner thinks they’re killing the game, they won’t know that they need to make improvements.

Tell the truth about your distaste for your gifts in a way that’s gentle and kind. Be sure to express gratitude for their efforts.

Find out if it’s possible for the gifts to be returned or exchanged for something of equal value that you’ll actually like.

A partner who truly loves you will be happy to oblige. (Just beware that an emotionally immature partner may throw a hissy fit and take offense.)