Imagine your ex happily married and successful. Now be honest… did that piss you off?

Here are three reasons why it shouldn’t, and why you should actually always wish the best for your old romantic partners!

It brings you peace of mind

Holding onto negative energy in any sense isn’t good for you. When you focus on the negative parts of a situation or a person, you’re lowering yourself to a negative state of mind. 

Now you’re feeling the same emotions that you felt as you were experiencing that situation or person.  

When you do that, you’re only causing hurt to yourself.  Free yourself from your mind and focus on the good.

You may end up saying something you regret

Relationships can get messy fast.  In the spur of the moment, you could forget that you were once genuinely in love with that person, and you can say something to or about them that you don’t even actually believe. 

The love you once felt might seem to have turned into disgust and even hatred; that’s just the true nature of any type of relationship. 

Your perception of the situation can turn extremely distorted and you can end up really hurting someone you care about.

You would want the same grace

As time goes by, you might come to the realization that you weren’t always the best partner either.

It’s easy to brush off our own toxic traits and habits.  Because to us, we’re acting normal. We’re just acting how we always have since being conditioned from childhood by our environment. 

But this is true for everyone, including your ex.  At the end of the day, we’re all learning and experiencing and learning and experiencing. 

Next time you’re thinking of your ex in a less-than-positive way, try to reframe those thoughts and focus on the good.  Even if the only “good” the relationship brought you was a lesson learned.