Releasing the headstrong mentality in your romantic relationships is difficult. You need to find the right balance, or you may drive your partner away.

But you also don’t want a man who can’t handle your true energy.

Speaking up for yourself and your needs is different in a romantic relationship than it is elsewhere. Here’s how to do what you have to do.

Stand your ground.

The first thing that you should do is stand your ground. Make it known what you want and what you’re willing to do to get it.

If he or she has something they want, make it clear what you’re willing to do for them. Never compromise just because you are afraid of a bad outcome.

Communicate clearly and with purpose.

Let your partner know clearly and with purpose what you want. Let him know what is bothering you and what either of you can do to help.

If he needs something from you, make it clear where your boundaries and abilities lie so you both know what you are and aren’t capable of.

Get what you want.

Success is a strong part of having an assertive mentality. While you’re not always going to succeed, it is required that you always act with success in mind.

Once you’ve found what you want, work for it. Work together for it. Your partner is a partner, which means your relationship is a team effort. 

Stop sugarcoating.

When you sugarcoat everything you say, you come across as fake. Be authentic. Be real. Your partner will respect you for it.

This doesn’t mean to start acting rude or speaking with a rude tone of voice. Simply stop beating around bushes, cut to the chase, and say what needs to be said without leaving out any necessary details that might make you feel squeamishly uncomfortable.