How a person acts is typically determined by their experiences, beliefs, self-worth, and unconscious prejudices.

Your partner might not have had the best childhood or adulthood so far, but that’s no excuse for the mistreatment you’re receiving.

Significant issues arise when a person uses external variables and traumatic events in their life as excuses to behave poorly. It gets even worse when you become to person justifying their actions.

Instead, we should all be searching within for answers to the problems that life throws at us. Your partner is fully capable of working on their own personal healing journey without hurting you along the way.

If your partner is always acting out in toxic ways and you’re always making excuses for them out of pity or empathy, some changes need to be made.

Toxic behavior doesn’t deserve to be excused

Continuing to accept toxic behavior from a partner based on sad things you know they’ve been through only hurts you in the long run.

You’ll be stuck feeling helpless and hopeless and you remain in an abusive relationship.

Just because you’ve known someone for a long period doesn’t guarantee they’ll ever shift or improve for the better.

Even though you deserve better and believe they will eventually change, your wishes only go so far.

The sad reality is that your partner is unlikely to alter. Unless they make real adjustments and accept responsibility for their mistakes, understand that they aren’t worth your time.

Excuses for toxicity must stop ASAP

Tolerating a person’s poisonous behavior reinforces their toxic behavior. They believe it is acceptable to handle you in this manner because you’ve allowed them to get away with their poisonous behavior. 

One example of toxicity is jealousy. Jealousy indicates that a person is mentally naive and lacks maturity.

It’s also an indication that someone is about to become physically or mentally violent if things go too far.

Jealous people behave this way because they are missing something in their lives. They also believe that treating you this way offers them an advantage or power in the partnership.

Toxic relationships can appear in a variety of shapes and sizes beyond jealousy. Analyze where you and your partner are at.

Instead of concentrating on the factors that make you want to justify your partner’s toxicity, concentrate on what you can do to move on and terminate the connection.

Recognize how toxic relationships impact you and question yourself about why you’ve another person so much power over your life.

Decide to stop making excuses. Making excuses for toxic or abusive behavior simply shows your partner that it’s okay for them to keep treating you badly.