Mmm… curious question: Do you believe your self-worth is dependent on someone else’s opinion of you?

Before you uncover why that might be the case, I have some good news for you. We can change that starting today.

You are not smart, beautiful, lovable, or talented because anyone said so but simply because..well …you just are.

Enough preaching….

Here’s why external validation is a trap

Clouded judgment:
Most of the time, someone’s perception of you is not a reflection of who you are but who they are; think about it.

Insecurity and loss of self-identity:
Needing constant validation stems from a place of deep insecurity and can, unfortunately, lead to a loss of identity.

Opinions change:
Someone’s opinion of you is not a reliable source of happiness, what if they change it tomorrow? Then what? Are you no longer wonderful?

True fulfillment stems from within:
Who do you spend all of your life with? He or she is always there, well, it’s yourself.

A lesson I came across from the book “The Daily Stoic” states that you are the best retreat; you are your own source of fulfillment.

How to find fulfillment from within…

Go to therapy

This is an underrated move if you want to learn where your need for validation stems from and heal. Alternatively, for those who cannot access therapy, you can do shadow work.

Find a job/hobby that you enjoy

Do things that actually bring you fulfillment, things that pour into you.

Try a self-care routine

Get yourself one of these, whether it’s doing your skincare, watching your favorite show,, or a day in nature.

Develop a strong mindset

Meditation, journaling, goal setting and consuming empowering content are a few tactics to develop a strong mindset.

Define your success

Break free from the cocoon of people pleasing by deciding what success means to you.

Let me leave you with this TikTok statement that I totally dig, and it goes like this: “Fill up your own cup, let them fall in love with the overflow.”