If you’re truly serious about manifesting your soulmate relationship, I can help you out a bit.

Here are three simple but powerful steps you can take today to align with your soulmate:

1. Cut Off Your Safety Net of Situationships, Exes, Etc

The first thing you need to do is cut ties with situationships. Yes… it’s scary, lonely, and uncomfortable. But it’s also absolutely necessary.

I know this from firsthand experience. Before meeting my husband, I was still caught in an on-again, off-again toxic cycle with my ex.

We both knew we weren’t meant to be together, but neither of us would completely let go. It wasn’t until I cut off all contact (changing my number, my email, everything) that I finally opened the space to receive the love I was truly meant for.

Situationships, sneaky links, “it’s complicated” relationships—whatever you call them, they are an energetic blockage. They fill the space where your soulmate should be.

Even if you tell yourself “I’m just having fun while I wait”, what you’re really doing is allowing the wrong person to occupy the place that’s meant for your future partner.

Think about it: would you want your future husband or wife casually hooking up with someone else while “waiting” for you? Probably not.

It’s uncomfortable to face the loneliness, but leaving that space open is crucial for the right love to flow in.

As women, one of the biggest mistakes we can make is wasting our youth with a noncommittal partner.

Men benefit in countless ways, emotionally, energetically, spiritually, from having a woman’s presence in their lives.

But if they aren’t willing to commit, you’re pouring your energy into someone who will never give it back.

Ask yourself: If he wanted to, wouldn’t he?

Your time, energy, and youth are too valuable to spend on someone who has no intention of being your life partner.

When I finally cut off my ex, my phone went dry. No texts, no late-night calls, no fallback connection.

I knew I’d be lonely for a while. I knew I’d have to sit with the silence. But I also knew it was temporary — because my soulmate was on his way.

That’s the mindset shift: seeing loneliness as a short-term trade-off for the long-term love you deserve.

Manifesting your soulmate requires faith and discipline. You can’t welcome in the love of your life while holding onto a placeholder.

Cut off the distractions. Release the safety nets. Clear the space.

Because the truth is, your soulmate can only find you when the door is wide open — and you’re truly ready to receive them.

I knew I was doing the right thing by making space for my future husband, but I’m not gonna lie — it was scary. Jumping into the unknown feels like abandoning the comfort and familiarity of someone you’ve gotten used to, even if they aren’t right for you. You think, What if no one better comes along?

But here’s the truth: it’s not a matter of if — it’s a matter of when. You don’t need to waste energy asking if your soulmate will come along. You need to decide that they will come along.

Period. The “when” will always feel frustrating because we can’t control timelines. We don’t know how or when our manifestation will show up, especially in love. What you can control is the environment you create to receive it.

Ask yourself: are you creating an environment that’s truly receptive to your soulmate? Or is that space filled by an ex, a situationship, or a sneaky link who you already know is not your future husband? If your bed, your time, your energy is taken up by the wrong person, there’s no room left for the right one to enter.

For me, being on and off with my ex for over 3 years was the single biggest blockage stopping me from meeting my soulmate sooner.

It was toxic, it was draining, and deep down I knew he wasn’t my husband. Once I cut him off completely, everything shifted. I literally felt the space in my life open up.

And get this — five months to the day after I walked away from my ex, my husband slid into my DMs. That’s alignment.

But those five months weren’t easy. My phone was dry. I was lonely. I sat in the discomfort of the unknown. And yet, I stayed focused on my vision.

2. Write Down Your List of Non-Negotiables in a Soulmate and DON’T Waver From It

I journaled morning and night about my dream relationship.

I wrote down everything: his height, his facial hair, his ocean-blue eyes, how he treats me, how he makes me laugh, how much he loves taking pictures with me.

I didn’t just list surface-level traits; I described the relationship in full detail — our date nights, our cuddles, the way we’d build a life together.

And here’s the kicker: before I met my husband, I dated someone who matched about 85–90% of that list. It was a mindf***.

I thought, Maybe this is close enough. But it wasn’t.

He didn’t check ALL the boxes — especially the ones that mattered most to me. And even though it was scary to let him go too, I knew I couldn’t settle.

That’s when God gave me my clarity moment.

My 26th birthday was a huge deal — family and friends flying in, I ordered catering, I rented furniture, the whole thing.

And this man didn’t even request the day off work to show up. That was my wake-up call. My future husband would never miss my birthday. God made it crystal clear: This is not your person.

And God was right. Because today, every single birthday I’ve spent with my husband has been magical — piles of gifts, thoughtful cakes, flowers, nights out dancing, dinners at my favorite restaurants.

My husband goes all out for me because that’s who he is — and that’s what I wrote down.

So here’s what I learned: don’t waver on your list. Don’t convince yourself to settle just because someone checks most of the boxes.

“Close enough” is not enough when it comes to your soulmate.

If you’re serious about manifesting real love, you have to leave space for it—no distractions, no half-right partners, no safety nets.

And if you’re a woman of faith, ask God for clarity. He will show you. Sometimes the clarity hurts, but it’s always worth it. Because what’s waiting on the other side is so much greater than what you’re tempted to settle for.

Thank God he didn’t come to my birthday. Honestly, I’m grateful for that clarity moment.

And that’s the thing — you can pray for clarity in Jesus’s name, and God will show you.

Sometimes it comes in ways that sting a little, but it’s always for your highest good.

3. Become Someone YOU Would Date… Would You Date Yourself?

The last tip I want to share is all about leveling up — becoming the person you’d want to date if you could date yourself.

That means leveling up physically, emotionally, energetically, financially, and in every other area of your life.

Physically:

If you already feel confident in your skin and love yourself exactly as you are, then you can disregard this.

But if you know there’s room for improvement and you’re not showing up as your most confident, magnetic self, then step it up.

For me, I was manifesting both my soulmate and a showgirl job on the Las Vegas Strip at the same time.

That role required me to be in the best shape of my life — lean, toned, confident.

Getting into peak condition boosted not just my career prospects, but my confidence in attracting the partner I knew I deserved.

Emotionally:

I was in weekly therapy sessions leading up to meeting my husband. I told my therapist straight up: “I’m manifesting my soulmate, and I don’t want to lose this relationship because of old patterns or toxic behavior.”

In the past, I’d shut down, go ghost, and isolate when I was upset.

Therapy gave me the tools to communicate openly and regulate my emotions instead of self-sabotaging.

That emotional growth prepared me to handle the healthy, loving partnership I had been calling in.

Energetically:

This is where the spiritual side comes in. I poured myself into self-love, alignment, and practicing the law of attraction every day.

I journaled morning and night, scripting what my dream relationship looked like in vivid detail. I kept daily gratitude lists to anchor myself in abundance.

Meditation was huge for me too — especially guided meditations on YouTube by people like Dr. Joe Dispenza.

Meditation helps you reprogram your subconscious mind, and since 95% of our manifestations come from that subconscious programming, it’s one of the most powerful tools you can use.

Another key to energetic alignment is your environment. Surround yourself with people who “speak the language” of manifestation.

If you’re declaring out loud, “I’m so grateful for my soulmate and the beautiful relationship we share,” but the people around you think you’re crazy, they’ll only drag down your energy.

Instead, connect with people who believe in this work, who will hype you up and affirm your vision.

And honestly, that’s where the power of what some call “delusion” comes in. You have to be bold enough, audacious enough, to believe in your worthiness even before you see results.

People who don’t understand manifestation may think it’s crazy — but that kind of “delusional belief” is exactly what brought me my husband.

I went from feeling unworthy of love to fully believing I was so worthy that it was only a matter of time. And that’s exactly how it unfolded.