I want to debunk three super common misconceptions about childfree women, because I myself am a childfree woman.

People get a lot of things wrong about us. Let’s get into it.

Misconception 1: Childfree women hate kids

This one couldn’t be further from the truth. Being childfree does not automatically mean hating children.

I actually spent much of my early career working with kids — at childcare centers, daycare facilities, and as a lifeguard and swim instructor.

I think children are precious and I’m genuinely happy for my friends when they announce pregnancies or become parents. I’ll always celebrate their milestones.

But that doesn’t mean I want the same lifestyle for myself.

It’s worth noting that some childfree people identify as anti-natalists, meaning they believe it’s unethical to bring children into the world due to suffering, inequality, or environmental concerns.

While I understand parts of that perspective, I don’t personally align with the more extreme version of it.

At the end of the day, not wanting children doesn’t equal hating them.

Misconception 2: Posting childfree content is a “cope”

I regularly share childfree content on TikTok, YouTube, and Instagram.

Some people assume I only post it to convince myself and others that I’m happy with my decision.

The truth? I post this stuff because childfree women everywhere in the world deserve a voice.

Society has long vilified us, labeling us as “wasted wombs,” spinsters, or lonely cat ladies.

From a young age, women are taught that motherhood is the only true path to fulfillment, love, and happiness.

But different things fulfill different people. For me, fulfillment looks like:

• Impromptu date nights with my husband without scrambling for a babysitter.
• Sleeping in and taking afternoon naps without interruption.
• Traveling freely and only worrying about two plane tickets, two bags, and one bed in our hotel room.
• Having the time and space to rest, create, and enjoy a life I revel in on my own terms.

Sharing this content isn’t about coping. It’s about challenging outdated narratives that try to box women into one role.

Misconception 3: Being childfree is selfish

This one always makes me laugh. Selfish towards who? Some non-existent baby that was never conceived?

People think I’m being selfish against some metaphorical baby that doesn’t even exist.

Knowing myself, I’d rather spend my money on travel, spa days, and spoiling my husband instead of diapers, daycare, and future college tuition.

I value freedom and flexibility more than almost anything else.

For me, the more selfish choice would be bringing a child into the world only to resent them for disrupting the lifestyle I know I thrive in.

Instead, I’m making a conscious choice that aligns with who I am.

Choosing to be childfree is not about selfishness — it’s about self-awareness.

For me, I’d go further to say it’s about practicing self-love as well.

So yeah…

Childfree women are not all the same. Some love kids, some don’t. Some resonate with anti-natalist views, others don’t. Some are vocal about their choices, others keep it private.

But we all deserve the same respect as women who choose motherhood.

Fulfillment, happiness, and love don’t only come through raising children, despite what mainstream media has tried to convince us.

Fulfillment can come through countless other paths, and living a childfree lifestyle is one of them for women like me.