Finding out that you’re the “other woman” is absolutely devastating.

If you didn’t already know the man you were with was in a relationship, it means you’ve been lied to – a lot.

It doesn’t matter how much love you feel for the man you’ve fallen for after you discover they’re already in a relationship with someone else.

Suddenly, it’s up to you to figure out if you want to tell their original partner about the cheating or keep it to yourself.

It’s also up to you to decide whether or not to continue engaging in a relationship with a man who clearly lied to you about some SERIOUS things.

Several women have taken to Reddit to open up about what it felt like discovering they unknowingly helped a man cheat on his original partner.

How it feels to learn you helped someone cheat on their partner

One woman wrote, “I was disgusted with myself and incredibly angry at the scumbag who put me in that situation. Suffice to say, things between us ended then and there.”

Another woman wrote, “I was angry at him for quite some time, I did give myself time to cool off with no contact and then told him that he owed me a conversation because he lied about a lot of things.

She went on to say, “We met at a park and spoke, got a very lengthy apology email later that day. Afterwards, I just gave myself time to get over what happened and became a lot more cautious about who I dated.”

A third woman wrote, “I was angry at him, then myself. I talked to his wife and apologized for causing her pain. Him? I let fly my full Welsh temper and then told him he was ghosted.”

More reactions from women

Some women keep it plain and simple after finding out that they’ve accidentally helped a man cheat on his partner.

Others feel the weight of the scandal on their shoulders in a big way.

One Redditor wrote, “Told the wife. Cut communication.”

Another added, “Completely sick, devastated and heartbroken. I booked STI tests asap and follow-ups and carried on the only way I can and have before.”

Another woman shared, “I felt sad, naive, disappointed and discouraged from ever dating again. The hardest part was learning that he lied so convincingly and I believed him.

“I messaged him told him I knew and I never saw him again. He wanted to talk face to face and I said no thanks.

“He sent some apology messages, tried to make excuses and I didn’t respond. I did not tell his wife, I thought about it and considered it but decided not to.

She concluded her post by saying, “I don’t know her or anything about her I had just learned of her existence but did not feel that it was my place to deliver that information so I just removed myself from the situation.”

It’s clear that everyone is entitled to have their own reactions and responses to something as problematic and troublesome as this.

Some women went straight to the health clinic to get tested for sexually transmitted diseases, while others jumped straight to exposing the truth as soon as possible.

Some women grappled with feelings of guilt (even though they didn’t do anything wrong), while others decided it was best to take the secret to the grave.