When a romantic relationship ends, it’s often pretty painful.

When you date someone, you got accustomed to spending time in their presence.

Hanging out with them, kissing them, being intimate with them, and sharing their energy are things that naturally become normal to you.

After a breakup, all of those things are suddenly stripped away. Another layer of pain is added to the mix when your partner moves on with someone new.

It gets even worse if they decide to start rubbing their new relationship in your face.

One woman wrote into Quora saying, “My ex-boyfriend is blatantly rubbing his new girl in my face and it hurts like hell. What should I do?”

She was met with some helpful feedback.

Understand that your ex probably isn’t even over you if they’re trying to make you jealous

If your ex is going out of your way to rub their new relationship in your face, it’s a tell-tale sign that they aren’t exactly over you just yet.

Why else would they be trying to get under your skin?

People who do immature things like this to evoke jealousy are clearly showing signs that they’re still emotionally invested in the person they’re trying to hurt.

A Quora user named Giorgio responded with some advice saying, “My ex did the exact same thing to me, when, fresh off our breakup, she rubbed her new ‘boyfriend’ in my face consistently and on social media, making sure I’d see it or somehow come across it.”

He continued, “Speaking from experience, I can assure you this means your ex is not completely over you, or else he wouldn’t even bother doing this. What is displayed to you is not a reflection of what goes on behind closed doors. His new girl is just a rubber band that he is using to attempt to get over you, and it’s not working.”

Give yourself time to heal from the hurt

Everyone says that time heals all, and that advice is incredibly true.

As much as it sucks to hear, enough time will have to pass by before the painful feelings of your breakup won’t feel so devastating.

A Quora user named Douglas shared his insight writing, “Ok it hurts. Give yourself time – the pain will go. I understand it will not ease your pain now.”

He went on to share a personal story about a time when this happened to him with a former partner. This situation isn’t that rare. Plenty of people have dealt with these shenanigans.

Get self-reflective

A third user on Quora responded to the post, saying, “Ask yourself why you are so upset. You know what ended your relationship in the first place. Stop worrying about what he is doing. Instead, be happy for him and live your life without looking back ’cause you were better off without him in the first place.”

Getting self-reflective means asking yourself those hard-hitting questions. Only you and your partner know why their relationship crumbled.

It obviously wasn’t meant to be. Truly think about the reasons for the demise of your relationship before wasting too much of your valuable time worrying about what your ex is doing in an attempt to make you jealous.