Healing from trauma is f*cking hard. It’s painful. It often feels like an uphill battle.
Rehashing the darkness of what you went through in order to actually heal from it isn’t pleasurable for anyone – but it’s necessary.
TikToker @AlleyRaymond shared a video highlighting some trauma-healing tips that most people would find useful.
Find her on Instagram @AlleyRaymond.
Embrace your time alone
Alley’s first tip is about how to approach your time spent alone. She says, “You need to learn to be alone and be happy being alone.”
Keep in mind that being alone doesn’t have to mean you’re lonely. Enjoying your own company is a super power.
Be present
Next, Alley says, “You need to learn to be present.”
Living in the moment can be challenging for plenty of people. Stressing over the future and regretting things of the past is extremely common.
Let it all go and focus on what’s happening right here, right now.
Think of people as chapters
The reality is that not every single person who enters your life is going to be part of your life forever.
Some people are temporary.
Alley says, “Understand that some people are a chapter in your story. Learn the lesson they brought you.”
Pay attention to what you need to learn
Falling into the same repetitive patterns is frustrating and annoying. It’s best to move forward whenever you get the chance.
Alley says, “The universe will keep sending you the same lesson over and over again until you learn it. Listen and pay attention.”
Change will be uncomfortable
Making changes isn’t easy. No one ever claimed it would be. Still, the harder reality would be staying the same.
Alley says, “Changing hurts. The mind and body don’t like change. It’s going to be uncomfortable and you need to embrace it.”
Don’t allow your mind to keep you stuck in toxic patterns or cycles. Fight back against your comfort zone.
Be your own happiness source
If you’re constantly waiting for someone else to swoop in and save you, you might be stuck waiting forever.
Alley says, “Don’t rely on things to make you happy, or other people. YOU need to be your source of happiness.”
It’s no one else’s job to make you happy. It’s your job, so take your job seriously.
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