You know what’s absolutely hilarious?

The fact that men seem to only want kids now that women are opting out.

Ever since women have collectively decided that we want to be childfree, more men than ever are suddenly interested in having kids and placing pressure on women to bear children.

I decided I was going to be childfree a long time ago, and fortunately, I am married to my husband, who understands where I’m coming from and would never pressure me to have children.

But back when I was single and dating, I was told that I would be wasting my womb as a woman if I refused to have children. I was told I was failing as a woman and that I wasn’t a real woman for not having kids.

I was told I must not be a nurturing or loving person if I’m not willing to have kids. Which is absolutely insane because the amount of love I pour into my husband and friends is excessively over the top. I have so much love to give.

I am overflowing with love, and it feels so good for me to love the people whom I choose to love, even though I have opted out of bringing children onto this planet.

But I just find it so ironic that back in the day, when women were the ones who seemingly cared about having kids more than men did, men acted like it was the worst thing ever to be pressured into having children.

I can think of so many examples in media and pop culture where women were painted as the annoying, nagging, pushy individual who was pressuring kids. And men acted like they couldn’t be bothered, and were so uninterested in parenthood.

We saw it between Charlotte and Trey on Sex and the City. We saw it between Monica and Richard on Friends. We saw it between Amy and Jake on Brooklyn Nine-Nine. We saw it with Daphne and Simon on Bridgerton. We saw it between the two adoptive parents in the movie Juno. And we’ve even seen it as recently as between Cassie and McKay on Euphoria.

As a quick reminder, Cassie really wanted to give birth to that baby when she had an unexpected and unplanned pregnancy with McKay. But he talked her out of it because he wasn’t even slightly interested.

So many examples in media have portrayed women as the needy ones who are desperate to have a baby. Women have been painted as these annoying creatures stressed out over our biological clocks, desperate to lock a man down and venture into parenthood.

And back in the day, I really do think it might’ve been like that in the real world, too. Real couples might’ve struggled with this type of dynamic, with women pressuring their male partners to settle down so they could get married and start having babies.

But times have certainly changed. Women are opting out of motherhood altogether. Not putting it off, but completely opting out. And I’m a prime example of what I’m talking about here.

More than 52% of women who are of childbearing age right now are childfree. And I have a feeling this number will continue rising.

Women’s rights are at risk in different states across the country. Women’s rights and autonomy over our bodies should never be up for debate, but depending on where you are in this country, there’s a chance your dangerous and deadly pregnancy symptoms could lead to your death.

Pregnant women have died in parking lots outside hospitals because they weren’t granted the necessary treatment they require, because doctors are scared they’ll be criminalized.

In what world does that sound appealing to a woman for pursuing pregnancy and motherhood? No one is protecting women. No one is watching our back. So why would we continue bringing life into a world that doesn’t care to protect us? I refuse to bring life into a world that oppresses me, and a lot of women feel the same way.

My personal opinion is a little different since I am a woman and I am a black woman, which means I’ve lived my entire life on the receiving end of both sexism and racism.

However, even white women understand the pain that comes from sexism alone. Women are treated as subhuman compared to men. Our needs are not taken seriously in the medical world. So it makes sense that so many women are choosing to opt out of motherhood.

If men were willing to stand up for us and fight for us and go out and vote to protect us, this would probably be a different conversation. But across the board, it seems like a lot of men just don’t really care.

So again, that brings me full circle back to the point of this video. The fact that men only seem to be interested in having kids now that women are opting out. It comes across as a case of what they can’t have. Which, I guess is very psychologically common. People often tend to desire things they can’t easily have. And men do like a chase. So knowing that so many women have decided motherhood is not a vibe makes men want to apply more pressure in that department. 

I’m happily married, so I don’t have to interact with men in the world anymore aside from friends and family, but what I’m hearing from friends and on social media is that men are telling women it’s a dealbreaker if she’s unwilling to have children.

It’s very interesting to me that these men are placing such a dealbreaker on women when they aren’t the ones who are at risk of life and death, bearing a child, and giving birth to a child. Because it is a life-or-death situation.

There are so many possible complications that can happen when a woman gives birth that men never have to worry about, and many of these complications can lead to death.

The complications that come along with bearing a child that have nothing to do with death are also pretty serious. 92% of new mothers must use adult diapers after giving birth for months afterward, and in some cases, they never get to stop using adult diapers because they are constantly leaking down there forever.

Some women have dealt with their vagina getting ripped all the way towards their anus while giving birth. Other women get ripped towards the front, which is where the clitoris is. And if that gets ripped, it can take away a woman’s ability to ever achieve another orgasm for the rest of her life.

The physical changes that happen to a woman’s body during pregnancy and childbirth are nothing to make light of. And countless threads have been launched by anonymous men complaining about the way they’ve lost attraction to their girlfriends and wives after seeing them go through pregnancy and childbirth.

That’s how men really feel, but they would never say it out loud. And these are the same men who are likely putting pressure on women to have kids in the first place.

They are comfortably fine, watching a woman go through the pain and suffering of bringing life onto this planet, knowing that they never have to bear any of that physical or mental struggle on their own.

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